BlogHer ’10 Session – Bringing Sex Out of the Closet

LIVE BLOG – updated as often as possible, all corrections to come later.

Mominatrix talking about finding an outlet to talk about sex on a blog without being caught out by husband, friends family etc.

As mominatrix.com it became easier for her (as a mom) to almost take on a whole new persona. As more people found her column it was still easy for her to deal with because she was almost writing under a pseudonym.

It’s interesting listening to these ladies talk about how they deal with sex and sexuality on their blogs, and how they get around it when their kids find it.

They try to be very open about it, and pretty much tell it like it is, though of course their blogs are never purposely shoved in front of their kids faces.

Discussing their social lives and how they do not appear too much on their blogs – it can be very dangerous to blog about someone you’re dating, especially if they find it and it turns out to be a shit date!

Interesting how they still choose to delete a lot of sex posts and tweets and requests etc that they get via facebook and twitter etc

I have to say, I’m really liking the strength from these women in terms of saying what they want to on their blogs, whether anonymously or not. There’s lots to be taught, and a good deal of it seems to come from supporting the next person.

In terms of readership, they find it interesting the sort of people who come to their blogs, expecting a certain type of stereotype – the black American bloggers often find people are expecting a “different” kind of sexy, yet they don’t see why they should be seen as more or less sexy than the next person, just because of stereotypes.

Discussing talking about sex with teenagers and how to make them feel as comfortable it as you are, make it a part everyday language in your home. It’s a natural thing!

Question from the audience – how to deal with guys (while dating) about how they compare to others, how thet measure up to  other people! Men often become obsessed with trying to make you orgasm and so a whole sense of insecurities come in to play. Thinking carefully about this can help you gauge how comfortable (emotionally) the sex will be. If he’s too busy being freaked out then it can just become a turn-off – best nipped in the bud and either end it or talk about it! At least you’ll both know where you stand.